“I feel like I could have been really effeminate, if I hadn’t gone to the school I went to. Where I felt like I had to toughen up. If I’d have been able to relax, prance around, sing in the street, I might be a different person now. I thank my dad for that, for not allowing me to go down that path. Because it’s probably given me the unique quality that people think I have.”
— Ultra butch masc queen Russell Tovey
Thanks, Mr. Tovey for raising Russell to be a hot gay man in looks AND mannerisms!
The overly sensitive can call their therapists in the morning…
We need to stop making news out of the verbal diarrhea of white trash.
Yup. Not PC. Yup, could be because I like masculine guys (if I wanted feminine, I’d get a girl.) Fuckin love the honesty of this statement.
My dad put me in martial arts for the same reason, and I love him for it. I’m a man, dammit. And I’m fuckin proud to act like one…even tho I get plowed like a lil bitch.
FUNNY…..HIS PAPPY DID NOT PREVENT HIM FROM LOOKING UGLY…..LOLOL
Well that takes Russell Tovey from my hot list and puts him on the douche list.
With that being said. I do hate it when a guy acts effeminate because he is gay and thinks that is the way he is supposed to act. I also hate it when a guy acts macho because he is a guy and thinks that is the way he is supposed to act. I have guy friends that are effeminate on all sided of the gay/straight/bi tango and guy friends that are not effeminate on all sides.
If you like singing songs, dancing down the streets, and being effeminate and feel that is who you truly are than you are beautiful for being that. If you feel like more of the athletic, rugged guy that wants to pass the football instead of the microphone, than you are beautiful for it. If you like it somewhere in the middle than you are beautiful for that too.
Just don’t be a dick and say I feel like I could have been prancing in the streets, singing songs, and being on the fem side, don’t say you are glad your dad didn’t let you be a “sissy” boy. Cause honey child, I know some “sissy” boys that can kick your chauvinistic ass.
If you read the interview, the interviewer thinks that the quality is to not be pigeonholed, which Tovey says in the next line about being able to play anything and be accepted as an actor.
I wish that the next questions had been since his father’s fears were so influential in his life, what are his feelings on hate crimes, bullying and marriage. His persona needs enough acceptance to be able to live, but not enough to purge all of those apparently character building situations.
That part of the interview essentially boils down to the fear of bullying was a boon to me and even if other people died because of it, I survived and even got a perk or two out of it.
What… It’s one thing to like who you are, but to say you are glad you weren’t allowed to be feminine is so indicative of internalized homophobia.
Also, what is this unique quality that he thinks he has? A personality? Everyone has one of those, I’m afraid.
It’s not entirely bullshit, there’s something to what he’s saying. I mean, I can’t quantify it as “good” or “bad.” But when I was really little–like 4 years old–I was very squeamish about certain things, certainly unathletic, uncoordinated. I got picked on for being a “sissy.” But when my dad pulled that word out, “don’t be a sissy,” it was like a lightning bolt to me. Confirmation that I was one, that it was seen as a bad thing, etc., etc.
Thereafter, I wanted nothing to do with “girly” things, nothing to do with anything “sissy.” I still managed to be NERDY, don’t get me wrong, and never developed an affinity for sports or guns or fishing. But it definitely shaped me, and my interests.
I would never cast aspersions on a guy who likes things frilly, lacy, glittery and fabulous, nor do I see any of that as a bad thing. But if Dad hadn’t been an ass back in 1970, I may be quite different too.
Oh, baby. That’s some twisted fucking logic. I hate people who force us to think like this, it’s pure bullshit.